The Color of Friendship

Remember that age old riddle/song/what have you:

Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold. 

Then there's that song: No New Friends by DJ Khaled

No new friends, no new friends, no new friends, no, no new ... Fuck a fake friend, where your real friends at?

So where does that leave us... Friendship is crucial to the human experience. But friendship is also incredibly different for each person and each relationship is different. I mean we all saw how awkward it can be when two worlds collided in Cadet Kelly. That was quintessential, one is silver and the others gold. Thank goodness that friendship had a happy ending.

Friendship is weird. It's totally organic. It has a mind of its own. Friendships can last forever and ever or they can end after they've run their course and you've learned what you were supposed to. I've had my fair share of friendships end but I've been lucky in the way that they tend to just melt into the background. No over the top fights, nothing earth-shattering just slowly the hanging out ceases and talking becomes sporadic before it too ceases. There's no ill will in my heart, I wish them the best, we just aren't the type of friends we used to be, and that's alright. It took me time to learn that, but it is important to learn. You can't be friends with everyone, friendships run their course and you keep the memories but keep moving forward, you can't look back.

I think I learned this the most with the high school friends I still have. We may not see each other much or even have to talk everyday, but when we do it's like nothing has changed and I swear it's 2010 again  and we're loving being second semester seniors, we just happen to now have different significant others or be in our careers or working towards them rather than our after school jobs. Our lives are no longer inseparably intertwined and that's alright. It's almost better, because we've been able to grow separately but still together.

Then there's my college friends, the ones I quite literally spent 4+ years, 24/7 with and now that we're separate, a few I know I don't have to talk to everyday to stay just as close and with my bi-monthly trips to Akron, our friendships are just as strong and then there are my other friends that I talk to all day, everyday, just like we did when we were still in college and could possibly run into each other even though now-- there's two and half hours separating us from